Top Tips on the Transition from a Cot Leicester

By  Mandy Gurney Millpond Children’s Sleep Clinic Supernanny Expert 11/05/2007

Once your toddler hits three, you’ll probably start thinking about moving her to a ‘big kid's bed’ at night time – and if she’s tall, or you need her cot for a new baby brother or sister, you may need to do it sooner. Making the transition to a larger bed can be a difficult for young children who feel safe and secure in their familiar cot – so how can you make sure this milestone doesn’t turn into a maelstrom? Sleep expert Mandy Gurney offers her advice…

Our daughter is 19 months and still sleeping in her cot at night – but we need to use it for her new baby brother. We have to get up to our daughter several times a night and I’m worried she’ll keep getting out of bed and asking to come in with us if there are no sides to make her stay put. How can I make sure she stays in her new bed and goes back to sleep if she wakes in the night?

Ready for a bed?

Ideally you should aim to keep your toddler in a cot for as long as possible but generally by the age of 3 years, most children have moved to a bed. A sure sign that a child needs to be transferred to a bed is when they persist in attempting to climb out of the cot or are successful in escaping!

Your daughter is on the young side for such a move so to keep her in it you’ll have to give her the incentive to want to stay there. If you give in and take her into your bed, the waking is likely to continue – after all, snuggling up with mum and dad is the ultimate reward for her night time waking. At the same time, she may develop inappropriate sleep associations and lose the ability to self-settle alone during the night.

Make it gradual

A gradual retreat program will help teach your daughter to settle alone at bedtime and go back to sleep by herself during the night. This technique will minimise crying and is less likely to disturb her baby brother and the lucky parent whose turn it is to stay in bed! 

Gradual retreat is a method of gradually distancing yourself from your daughter little by little until she no longer needs your presence to fall asleep at bedtime. It should teach her how to return to sleep independently during the night.

STEP 1

After her usual bath and bedtime story routine, get her into bed with whatever cuddlies she sleeps with, and stroke her arm or shoulder as she settles.

STEP 2

Stop stroking and gently pat her to sleep. After a couple of minutes of steady patting start to pat intermittently, with gradually increasing intervals between contact.

STEP 3

Place a hand very lightly on her and rest it there for a couple of minutes. Then remove your hand and quietly “shhhhhhh” her as she drifts off.

STEP 4

This is where you start to quietly move your chair further away from her bed – quietly move it two feet away and sit for a couple of minutes; then move it to the middle of the room for a couple of minutes; and then move to beside the door. Once you’re in this spot, sit for...

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